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Why did you dump your boyfriend? You were dating the guy and getting to really like him. Everything between you seemed to be working out well. Then, one day you noticed something about him was grating on your nerves. So you suddenly dumped your boyfriend. You told him the relationship was over. You didn’t even tell him the reason.

Now you want your boyfriend back. There are tactics you can use to get your ex boyfriend back. But, before you do anything, you need to think things through. Don’t start calling your ex boyfriend or texting him. Your behaviour in dumping him was unkind to say the least. Men have feelings too, and your guy will be feeling hurt and unhappy. If you didn’t tell him why you dumped him, he will undoubtedly be feeling confused. Don’t add to his confusion by contacting him within days of telling him you didn’t want to see him anymore.

Before you do anything else, you need to make sure you know why you dumped your boyfriend. Maybe the way he laughed got on your nerves. Did he have a favorite catchphrase that made you want to scream after you heard it for the thousandth time? Did he wear embarrassing old fashioned clothes. Was it something deeper? Did he show disrespect for women? Did you disagree about religion or politics? Maybe you just didn’t share his sense of humour. It could have been something huge or something minor.

The fact is that it seemed important enough to you to make you dump your boyfriend. Before you try to get your ex boyfriend back, you need to examine how you really feel about him deep down. Nobody is perfect and some things can’t be changed. You need to make sure you can learn to love your ex boyfriend’s faults, or at least overlook them.

When you have sorted out your feelings, it is time to make contact with your ex boyfriend. You might find that he refuses to have anything to do with you. You should not feel surprised. It is quite a natural reaction. Try putting yourself in his shoes. Imagine how you would feel. You were happily dating somebody when, totally out of the blue, he dumps you. Then, equally unexpectedly, he starts calling you. Wouldn’t you be feeling hurt and confused?

If you have tried to call him and he has not returned your calls, take the hint. It could be that he really wants nothing more to do with you. It might just be that he needs some time to get over his hurt feelings.

The only sensible thing for you to do is to back off and give your ex boyfriend some space. If he needs time to recover from the shock of being dumped so suddenly, you have to let him have time. Getting back with your ex boyfriend is not something that can be rushed. Some women test their men by picking a quarrel. They want to see their boyfriends’ reaction. They will say hurtful things to their boyfriends.

Some women will even tell their boyfriends they don’t want to see them anymore. Of course, the reaction they hope for is that the boyfriends will run after them. They want to know their boyfriends care enough to fight to keep the relationship going. If there is any element of this sort of manipulation in your decision to dump your boyfriend, you only have yourself to blame if you have lost him for good.

If your ex boyfriend decided to behave with dignity instead of begging for another chance, you are going to have to eat some large servings of humble pie to get him to even consider getting back with you. If you know in your heart that you are guilty of playing this sort of cruel mind-game, you need to look at the reason why you felt the need to act like that. It could be that the root of this behaviour is a problem with your self esteem. If your self esteem is so low that you need to test your boyfriend’s feelings in this way, you should work on building up your feelings of self worth. You need to do this if you want to have a successful relationship.

If you are sure that dumping your boyfriend did not contain any element of testing his feelings, you should think more deeply about your true feelings for him. Do you truly believe that your only reason for dumping your boyfriend was that something about him irritated you? If so, you must honestly consider whether the same thing is going to irritate you if you get your ex boyfriend back. Sometimes a person we love has a habit or a mannerism that irritates us. It need not be fatal to the relationship. On the other hand, a deep character flaw can make it impossible for two people to have a successful relationship.

You need to be sure whether you inflated a minor irritation out of proportion or whether you reacted to a fatal flaw. Don’t do anything until you are certain that you can accept your ex boyfriend as he is. Then you can make an effort to get him back. The first thing to do is to apologise sincerely for your behaviour. You owe it to your ex boyfriend to tell him why you dumped him. The reason might even sound silly to your ears now. If so, admit that too. Admit that you completely overreacted. Tell your ex boyfriend that you care about him. Tell him you won’t ever behave in such an unreasonable manner again.

If you are lucky, your dumped boyfriend might just give you another chance. If you can get back with your ex boyfriend, you must stick to your promise not to repeat your past behaviour. Make a pact that in future your relationship will be based on honesty. One of the best ways to ensure a relationship will last is to talk to each other. Minor niggles can be quickly sorted out through good communication. If you don’t talk about these things, they can just keep on piling up until they reach a dangerous level. If you dumped your boyfriend for no good reason, you can learn a valuable lesson from the experience.

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